Gary John Bishop is a leading Personal Development expert and coach who has impacted thousands of people worldwide. He is known for using an “urban philosophy” approach to coaching and transformation that represents a new wave within personal empowerment and life mastery. He’s been able help people get, what many would would describe as, miraculous results in the quality of their life and in their performance of the areas of their life that matter most to them.
Gary is the bestselling author of the book “Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life.”
In this interview, Gary begins by discussing his journey into personal development and coaching. He talks about confronting and challenging behavior that he once thought was acceptable, but came to realize it wasn’t. Gary then defines what awareness means to him, and describes how he developed more awareness to the way he showed up to the people around him. He also explains how self-righteousness fractures our relationships.
Next, we ask Gary how someone can identify the root causes of why their life feels like a mess. He emphasizes the importance of setting aside our feelings and focusing on changing our actions rather than our thoughts. He also explains how to embrace uncertainty and risk, and how this helps us find meaning and growth. We then ask Gary how to separate our thoughts from reality. He talks about becoming an observer rather than an enactor of our thoughts. He also discusses how to keep promises by bridging the gap between where you are now and the action you need to take to fulfill those promises.
Gary then offers advice for curating goals in the unknown. He elaborates on the process of achieving something he’s never done before by using the example of how he wrote his book. He also explains how to uncover the beating heart of our internal dialogue, eradicate victimhood, and get over our past. We ask Gary how people can recognize the reality they’ve created for themselves. He gives examples of questions people can ask themselves to change their frame of reference and discover where they’re holding themselves back.
Gary goes on to discuss how to become more resilient and learn to push through obstacles and adversity. He describes what relentlessness is and why it’s such a vital part of success. We then ask Gary to expand on the idea of expecting nothing and accepting everything. He talks about why control is an illusion and how expectations undermine us and lead to conflict. He also emphasizes the importance of choice and practicing acceptance.
We ask Gary to describe the process of becoming who we want to be and what it involves. He talks about how to live with integrity, take ownership of our triggers, and evaluate what we bring to the table in our interactions and relationships. Finally, Gary reveals what he thinks are the biggest myths in modern relationship advice. He explains why we need to take personal responsibility in our relationships and all aspects of ourselves, and how doing so will ultimately improve the quality of our lives.
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