Dr. Joe Luciani has been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than 35 years. He is the internationally best-selling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, and offers free self-coaching advice on his website self-coaching.net.
In this interview, Joe begins by discussing his struggles with anxiety in his adolescent years, and how it influenced him to become a psychologist. We ask him how his coaching approach differs from other self-help methods. He explains how he combines motivational psychology with the more traditional cognitive-behavioral approach.
Joe then talks about how negative thought patterns and habits can lead to chronic anxiety and depression. He offers advice on becoming more aware, catching ourselves, and breaking out of destructive patterns. He also discusses why over-control causes stress, and how to let go of trying to control outcomes. Joe emphasizes the importance of self-trust, and explains how to strengthen our self-trust muscle in order to be more spontaneous. He walks us through the 3-step self-talk process that he covers in his books.
Next, Joe talks about the importance of choice in our lives. He offers a number of effective strategies for the listeners to coach, motivate, and empower themselves to choose happiness. Joe discusses how to live more optimistically and avoid falling into victim-hood. He explains how to break out of negative thought loops. He also talks about building confidence through gradual exposure and desensitization.
Finally, we ask Joe how listeners can change their interpretation of external circumstances to better support them. He again emphasizes the importance of choosing an optimistic mindset. He also describes the mysterious phenomena of how we tend to find and attract what we’re looking for. Joe provides some examples of clients who began experiencing more luck and success after adopting a more optimistic mindset.